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A handbook for making shallow friendships
Commenté en France 🇫🇷 le 16 janvier 2021
I've finished reading Dale Carnegie's "How to win friends and #influencepeople". It was a deception. If you apply EVERY word in the book, by the letter, then congratulations, you've become good at making shallow and fake friendships.
The book was first published in 1937, so I could not recognise many of the examples / anecdotes / names of prominent people in the book, probably well known at their time. Which made it difficult for me to stick with some parts of the book.
Some of the ideas of the book remain valid though. Other ideas can be helpful as conversation starters / friendship triggers. Yet, one needs to be bold and candid with their friends from time to time.
My key takeaways:
- Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
- Make people feel important and get genuinely interested in them.
- Talk in terms of the other person's interest and show them how to get it. That'll make them get interested in your point of view.
- Criticising , arguing do not necessarily solve problems. Adressing others' mistakes indirectly, praising every progress they make, admitting your mistakes first will do.